Feminism is the feminine vision of what female empowerment
means to women, while femdom is the masculine version of this. Together these
two concepts could create matriarchy but there is such a vast difference
between these two concepts that the gulf between them seems unbridgeable.
The feminist vision of matriarchy we can see in blurb for the
book: “Societies of Peace: Matriarchies
Past Present and Future” edited by Heide Goettner-Abendroth. -
“Matriarchal societies, primarily shaped by women, have a
non-violent social order in which all living creatures are respected without
the exploitation of humans, animals, or nature. They are well-balanced and
peaceful societies in which domination is unknown and all beings are treated
equally.”
This is in total contrast to femdom’s vision of matriarchy
which is about very cruel and sadistic women abusing men and treating them like
slaves. The contrast couldn't be greater.
So who is right? Or is there a middle way in this?
Yes, there is and the middle path and it might be the only
way we can create matriarchy. This is
because both the feminist and femdom visions of matriarchy are impracticable in
their present form and both need to learn from each other.
The biggest obstacle in creating a matriarchal society is
patriarchy. If we look at patriarchal
history it is very clear it doesn’t have a, “live and let live” attitude. Patriarchal societies throughout history have
always been invading each other, imposing their will onto other people and have
generally interfered in other people’s lives.
So if we have patriarchal and matriarchal societies living side by side,
it is more than likely those patriarchal societies will try to invade and
conquer the matriarchal societies.
This then is the weakness of any concept of a peaceful,
non-violent matriarchy. It can only
survive, if it is not invaded by patriarchy.
This means it can only endure in isolated communities, or on land no
patriarchal rulers or wealthy businessmen wants. It also must not pose a threat to the
existing patriarchal elite, by showing to the world a better way of living. This then is the problem. For matriarchy to thrive, it has to be strong
enough to defend itself from attack from patriarchy.
Because of this, does it mean that the female leaders of any
matriarchal society have to be as aggressive and warlike as the leaders of
patriarchal societies? They may not have
to go to this extreme, but they certainly need be willing to defend
themselves. This means, having a well
train military force with all the latest weapons. The very fact that matriarchy has to do this,
undermines the idea of a peaceful, non-violent community.
So is the femdom crowd right? That any matriarchal society that can survive
in our patriarchal world has to be led by cruel and sadistic female leaders? We certainly do not have to go that far. But the female leadership has to be willing
to send men into battle knowing they will probably die. This is not that unusual, there have been
many female leaders in patriarchal times that did this. The most well-known ones are Cleopatra,
Boudicca, Elizabeth 1, Indira Gandhi, Golda Meir and Margaret Thatcher, just to
name a few.
So it seems that a feminist matriarchy has to compromise
with any idealism of a totally peaceful society, but does it have to compromise
in other ways? Yes, it may have to compromise
on any idea of equality as well.
Sexual equality has been the bedrock of feminism and this
concept is so popular with women that we also find it in ideas about
matriarchy. The problem is with this is
that if a society is ruled by women, then how can you have sexual
equality? If you had a society ruled by
both men and women that would be an egalitarian society but is that a
matriarchy?
Though it has to be admitted, that because women do like the
idea of equality, a matriarchy would be far more equal than any patriarchal
society. A truly equal society might be
possible in a society of only women but if we have a community of both sexes, then
men will undermine any attempts to bring about an egalitarian society.
The problem is that although women very much like the idea
of sexual equality, men are not so enthusiastic. We can see this clearly in all male dominated
societies that are very unequal. Even when
men set out with a clear intention to create an equal society like in the
French and Russian revolutions, they failed completely. So why is this?
The big problem that men have with equality is that they are
very competitive with each other. Competition and equality are like oil and
water and cannot mix. This is because
competition is all about winning and losing and winners can never be equal to losers.
We can see this in nature where most male animals fight and
compete with each other for access to females.
The prime example of this, are stags that fight each other every year,
where winner of these encounters ends up with a harem of females and the losers
get nothing. Although men don’t do this,
they still instinctively compete against each other and enjoy competitive games
like sport and even war.
This is why in any patriarchal society everything is turned
into competitive games. We see this in politics and business that can become
very competitive. This is why
patriarchal societies are so unequal, where the rich are the winners and have
far more wealth than they need and the poor are losers and live in poverty.
Women are far less competitive than men and like the idea of
equality. The reason for this, is they
give birth to children. Childbirth is a
dangerous business and women have a far better chance of survival for herself
and her children if she has the help and support of other women. So competing against other women is not a
good idea for any mother if they need the assistance of other women.
Women are also far more powerful if they support and work
together when dealing with men. We can
see their clearly when we compare the chimpanzee with the bonobo. (Both apes are genetically, our closest
relation in the animal world.)
Chimpanzees live in very male dominated communities where
male chimps use their greater size to intimidate females and force them into
submission. This doesn’t happen in
bonobo communities where the females form a powerful sisterhood and defend each
other against male aggression.
It seems, female chimpanzees pay a heavy price for not giving
assistance to each other. As they find
themselves alone when facing large and aggressive male chimpanzees, who use
violence to impose their will onto any female.
This doesn’t happen with bonobos where if a male bonobo attempts to use
force against a female, every bonobo female within hearing distant will immediately
come to her rescue. Driving the male
away and giving him a good beating in the process.
So equality and sisterhood makes perfect sense to women
because they know instinctively, that is how they become powerful. The problem for feminists is that this power
only comes about with equality between women and not between the sexes. Feminine power comes from a strong sisterhood
that support each other against male aggression.
So what do males think about this? The only men that would object to a powerful
sisterhood ruling societies are alpha males.
It makes little difference to ordinary men because they are oppressed by
a ruling elite anyway. So it makes
little difference to them who is ruling society, as their position in society
doesn’t change. They might even be
better off if women rule the world instead of alpha males, because women are
far more caring people.
This is why we have the paradoxical situation where more men
seem to be interested in matriarchy than women.
As many men instinctively know they would be better off if the world was
ruled by women. Unfortunately, femdom
men do a really bad job in selling this idea to women.
Telling women they should be cruel and sadistic is only
going to appeal to a small minority of women.
This is why there are far more men than women in the femdom scene. So the femdom version of matriarchy is not
going to be a success if most women don’t like it.
Likewise the feminist version of matriarchy where the sexes
are equal also has its problems. Because
as we see today, when we have governments of both males and females, then women
have to compete against aggressive alpha males for power. Female politicians then find themselves
having to act and behave like alpha males if they are going to achieve any
position of power. Again, only a small
minority of women want to do this.
This then is where both feminism and femdom are in
agreement, as both concepts are about women becoming far more aggressive and
assertive.
Femdom men are far more likely to get women interested in
matriarchy if they stop demanding that women act like cruel alpha males. Likewise feminists are more likely to get men
to help them gain power, if they recognise that men have little interest in
sexual equality. This is why men are far
more interested in femdom than feminism.
In spite of what feminism claim, we have to recognize that
the sexes are very different. Yes, there
are many masculine women and feminine men but the average man and woman are
different in many ways. And because of
this, a world ruled by women would be very different to one ruled by men.
A truly matriarchal world probably wouldn't be able to
eliminate warfare, violence or inequality from our world, but would do a far
better job at doing this than any patriarchal society. So the vision put forward in the book,
“Societies of Peace: Matriarchies Past Present and Future” could be partly
right.
There is one aspect of feminism that seems to be forgotten
and that is the idea that, “the sisterhood is powerful”. Women can learn a lot from the bonobo ape and
form powerful sisterhood to combat male violence and aggression. It would be far better for feminism to go
down this road, than lone females competing against alpha males for power in
business and politics.
To bring peace and harmony to our world requires women to
gain control over men, as it is men who create the vast majority of conflict
and violence in our world. This can be done through using men’s femdom
fantasies. Women do not have to whip and
torture men if they don’t wish to do this, but it would help a lot if they use
other aspects of these fantasies and be very bossy with men and allow them to
worship women.
So if feminist women and femdom men give a little and see
each other’s point of view, then they can cooperate, and together create a new
matriarchal world.
