Friday, 6 February 2015

An Introduction to Matriarchy




My mermaid video on the secret history of women, and the Aquatic Ape Theory has now a million hits!

A revised and updated version of the above video can be seen in seven parts.-

http://wabond.hubpages.com/hub/what-mermaids-really-are

Sunday, 17 February 2013

Feminism V Femdom



Feminism is the feminine vision of what female empowerment means to women, while femdom is the masculine version of this. Together these two concepts could create matriarchy but there is such a vast difference between these two concepts that the gulf between them seems unbridgeable.  

The feminist vision of matriarchy we can see in blurb for the book:  “Societies of Peace: Matriarchies Past Present and Future” edited by Heide Goettner-Abendroth. -

“Matriarchal societies, primarily shaped by women, have a non-violent social order in which all living creatures are respected without the exploitation of humans, animals, or nature. They are well-balanced and peaceful societies in which domination is unknown and all beings are treated equally.”

This is in total contrast to femdom’s vision of matriarchy which is about very cruel and sadistic women abusing men and treating them like slaves.  The contrast couldn't be greater.  So who is right?  Or is there a middle way in this?

Yes, there is and the middle path and it might be the only way we can create matriarchy.  This is because both the feminist and femdom visions of matriarchy are impracticable in their present form and both need to learn from each other.

The biggest obstacle in creating a matriarchal society is patriarchy.  If we look at patriarchal history it is very clear it doesn’t have a, “live and let live” attitude.  Patriarchal societies throughout history have always been invading each other, imposing their will onto other people and have generally interfered in other people’s lives.  So if we have patriarchal and matriarchal societies living side by side, it is more than likely those patriarchal societies will try to invade and conquer the matriarchal societies.  

This then is the weakness of any concept of a peaceful, non-violent matriarchy.  It can only survive, if it is not invaded by patriarchy.  This means it can only endure in isolated communities, or on land no patriarchal rulers or wealthy businessmen wants.  It also must not pose a threat to the existing patriarchal elite, by showing to the world a better way of living.  This then is the problem.  For matriarchy to thrive, it has to be strong enough to defend itself from attack from patriarchy.

Because of this, does it mean that the female leaders of any matriarchal society have to be as aggressive and warlike as the leaders of patriarchal societies?  They may not have to go to this extreme, but they certainly need be willing to defend themselves.  This means, having a well train military force with all the latest weapons.  The very fact that matriarchy has to do this, undermines the idea of a peaceful, non-violent community.

So is the femdom crowd right?  That any matriarchal society that can survive in our patriarchal world has to be led by cruel and sadistic female leaders?  We certainly do not have to go that far.  But the female leadership has to be willing to send men into battle knowing they will probably die.  This is not that unusual, there have been many female leaders in patriarchal times that did this.  The most well-known ones are Cleopatra, Boudicca, Elizabeth 1, Indira Gandhi, Golda Meir and Margaret Thatcher, just to name a few.

So it seems that a feminist matriarchy has to compromise with any idealism of a totally peaceful society, but does it have to compromise in other ways?  Yes, it may have to compromise on any idea of equality as well.

Sexual equality has been the bedrock of feminism and this concept is so popular with women that we also find it in ideas about matriarchy.  The problem is with this is that if a society is ruled by women, then how can you have sexual equality?  If you had a society ruled by both men and women that would be an egalitarian society but is that a matriarchy?

Though it has to be admitted, that because women do like the idea of equality, a matriarchy would be far more equal than any patriarchal society.  A truly equal society might be possible in a society of only women but if we have a community of both sexes, then men will undermine any attempts to bring about an egalitarian society.

The problem is that although women very much like the idea of sexual equality, men are not so enthusiastic.  We can see this clearly in all male dominated societies that are very unequal.  Even when men set out with a clear intention to create an equal society like in the French and Russian revolutions, they failed completely.  So why is this?

The big problem that men have with equality is that they are very competitive with each other. Competition and equality are like oil and water and cannot mix.  This is because competition is all about winning and losing and winners can never be equal to losers.

We can see this in nature where most male animals fight and compete with each other for access to females.  The prime example of this, are stags that fight each other every year, where winner of these encounters ends up with a harem of females and the losers get nothing.  Although men don’t do this, they still instinctively compete against each other and enjoy competitive games like sport and even war.

This is why in any patriarchal society everything is turned into competitive games. We see this in politics and business that can become very competitive.  This is why patriarchal societies are so unequal, where the rich are the winners and have far more wealth than they need and the poor are losers and live in poverty.

Women are far less competitive than men and like the idea of equality.  The reason for this, is they give birth to children.  Childbirth is a dangerous business and women have a far better chance of survival for herself and her children if she has the help and support of other women.  So competing against other women is not a good idea for any mother if they need the assistance of other women.

Women are also far more powerful if they support and work together when dealing with men.  We can see their clearly when we compare the chimpanzee with the bonobo.  (Both apes are genetically, our closest relation in the animal world.)

Chimpanzees live in very male dominated communities where male chimps use their greater size to intimidate females and force them into submission.  This doesn’t happen in bonobo communities where the females form a powerful sisterhood and defend each other against male aggression.

It seems, female chimpanzees pay a heavy price for not giving assistance to each other.  As they find themselves alone when facing large and aggressive male chimpanzees, who use violence to impose their will onto any female.  This doesn’t happen with bonobos where if a male bonobo attempts to use force against a female, every bonobo female within hearing distant will immediately come to her rescue.  Driving the male away and giving him a good beating in the process.

So equality and sisterhood makes perfect sense to women because they know instinctively, that is how they become powerful.  The problem for feminists is that this power only comes about with equality between women and not between the sexes.  Feminine power comes from a strong sisterhood that support each other against male aggression.

So what do males think about this?  The only men that would object to a powerful sisterhood ruling societies are alpha males.  It makes little difference to ordinary men because they are oppressed by a ruling elite anyway.  So it makes little difference to them who is ruling society, as their position in society doesn’t change.  They might even be better off if women rule the world instead of alpha males, because women are far more caring people.

This is why we have the paradoxical situation where more men seem to be interested in matriarchy than women.  As many men instinctively know they would be better off if the world was ruled by women.  Unfortunately, femdom men do a really bad job in selling this idea to women.

Telling women they should be cruel and sadistic is only going to appeal to a small minority of women.  This is why there are far more men than women in the femdom scene.  So the femdom version of matriarchy is not going to be a success if most women don’t like it.

Likewise the feminist version of matriarchy where the sexes are equal also has its problems.  Because as we see today, when we have governments of both males and females, then women have to compete against aggressive alpha males for power.  Female politicians then find themselves having to act and behave like alpha males if they are going to achieve any position of power.  Again, only a small minority of women want to do this.

This then is where both feminism and femdom are in agreement, as both concepts are about women becoming far more aggressive and assertive.

Femdom men are far more likely to get women interested in matriarchy if they stop demanding that women act like cruel alpha males.  Likewise feminists are more likely to get men to help them gain power, if they recognise that men have little interest in sexual equality.  This is why men are far more interested in femdom than feminism.

In spite of what feminism claim, we have to recognize that the sexes are very different.  Yes, there are many masculine women and feminine men but the average man and woman are different in many ways.  And because of this, a world ruled by women would be very different to one ruled by men.

A truly matriarchal world probably wouldn't be able to eliminate warfare, violence or inequality from our world, but would do a far better job at doing this than any patriarchal society.  So the vision put forward in the book, “Societies of Peace: Matriarchies Past Present and Future” could be partly right.


There is one aspect of feminism that seems to be forgotten and that is the idea that, “the sisterhood is powerful”.  Women can learn a lot from the bonobo ape and form powerful sisterhood to combat male violence and aggression.  It would be far better for feminism to go down this road, than lone females competing against alpha males for power in business and politics.

To bring peace and harmony to our world requires women to gain control over men, as it is men who create the vast majority of conflict and violence in our world. This can be done through using men’s femdom fantasies.  Women do not have to whip and torture men if they don’t wish to do this, but it would help a lot if they use other aspects of these fantasies and be very bossy with men and allow them to worship women.

So if feminist women and femdom men give a little and see each other’s point of view, then they can cooperate, and together create a new matriarchal world. 

Friday, 29 June 2012

Is it natural for men to be women’s slaves?


We have in our patriarchal world a strange phenomenon called femdom where men strongly desire to be women’s abused slaves.  What makes this so weird, is that we live in a male dominated world.  So why would men have desires like this, if they are suppose to be the dominant sex?  Does this mean there is something wrong with these men, or is the belief that men are naturally dominant, not true?

We have to question the idea that men are dominant when we find that throughout history, slavery has been commonplace.  Ancient civilizations like the Greeks and Romans were slave economies and even in societies that didn't have slaves, still had serfs and peasants, which were treated nearly as badly as slaves.  As the French philosopher Jean-Jacques Rousseau was to observe, "Man is born free, and everywhere he is in chains."

What we find in the whole of recorded history is that a just handful of male rulers found it easy to exploit the vast majority of people.  This is as true today as it ever was, as the majority of the world’s wealth and power is in the hands of only 1% of the world’s population.  So how is this possible?  And why do the common people allow this?

The reason for this, is that men are totally obedient to anyone in authority over them.  An extreme example of this total compliance was seen in World War One.  In this war, millions of British, French, Russian and German troops all obeyed orders to come out of their trenches to face near certain death by machine gun fire.  The mystery is, why so few men didn't obey these insane orders.

In World War Two, the Japanese took this blind obedience a step further by ordering their airmen to crash their aircraft into enemy ships in kamikaze attacks.  Muslim extremists in more recent times have their own version of suicide bombers by attaching explosives to their body and blowing themselves up in crowded areas.

So why are men so obedient that they will kill themselves when ordered to do so?  Or easy allow themselves to be exploited by a small ruling elite?  The only answer is that men seem to have a slave mentality.  When we see how easy it is to enslave men and make them totally obedient.  We have to question whether men are truly the dominant sex. 

So if men are not dominant, what about women?  In every patriarchal society women are oppressed even more than men.  This is because; the ruling elite have invented laws and customs to keep women in a state of servitude.  For thousands of years, men have been told that they cannot be ‘real’ men unless they are able to dominate women.  To do this, they have been encouraged to use their greater size and strength to impose their will onto women.

An extreme example of this is the ‘honour’ system in Muslim countries where a man is dishonoured if his wife disobeys him.  He then expected to either beat up or kill his wife to regain his ‘honour’.  It seems that the ruling elite has had to work harder at oppressing women, than they do at oppressing men.

The problem for women is that when they become very good subservient patriarchal wives, men don’t appreciate this and treat them with contempt.  In much the same way the ruling elite has total contempt for the very obedient men who keep them in power.  So why have the ruling elite in every country of the world have been so anti-women?  The reason might be that women are their main competitor, in being able to enslave men.  

The power of any ruling elite depends of the total obedience of the men they rule.  For instance, the power of an emperor, king or dictator depends on the total obedience of army of young men who will kill, maim or torture anyone who opposes or questions his rule.  It is true in democratic governments, things are more complicated.  But as we see today, billionaires can subvert any democracy, because it is so easy for them to bribe corrupt politicians.  But if a ruling elite doesn’t enslave and exploit men who else can do this?  The answer might be, women.

What if all of patriarchal indoctrination are lies and women are the natural dominant sex?  Could it be that all men would have a powerful desire to worship all women and desire to be enslaved and dominated by them.  This would mean that the femdom fantasies may not be the kinky desires of a small group of men, but what most men want and yearn for. 

So if it is natural of men to want to worship women why are we living in a male dominated world?  The answer seems to be that thousands of years ago a small group of men used men’s natural obedience to authority, to their own advantage.

The archaeologists Marija Gimbutas put forward a theory that back in the Neolithic age we lived in peaceful matriarchal societies.  Then about five thousand years ago, warlike patriarchal tribe swept down from the North and conquered them.  They could easy do this because a handful of extremely violent men can always defeat a far larger army of peaceful men who are averse to killing other people.


So what Marija Gimbutas theory suggests is that women had no trouble in dominating men, until a small group of men then used violence against matriarchal people.  But once patriarchal rule was established then patriarchy has retained its power not only though violence but also through propaganda and indoctrination.

Patriarchy couldn't have lasted unless men have a natural desire to blindly obey those in authority.  So instead of men obeying women, as in the last matriarchal age, men now obeyed a small ruling elite of rich and powerful men.  So how can ordinary men and women break the power of the patriarchal rulers?  It can be done by challenging patriarchal lies and propaganda.

Feminism has been fairly successful in doing this by questioning the idea that men are the natural dominant sex through proclaiming, women and men are equal.  As the result, we now see more women with wealth and positions of power.  The problem with feminism is that it sets a limitation of what is achievable by women.  As feminist push forward to gain more power, they find themselves being accused of sexism as well, if they gain too much power for women.

The cornerstone of patriarchal propaganda was that a male god ordained that men shall rule over women.  So if people believe this, then it suggests that very bossy women or men with femdom desires are either sinful or sexual perverts.  Something feminist would also agree with, because they believe in sexual equality.  For this reason, men who believe patriarchal indoctrination try to suppress their femdom desires.  At the same time bossy women try to conceal their dominant nature as they face strong criticism in patriarchal societies, or even from feminists.

If it becomes acceptable for men to have femdom desires and for women to dominate men, then far more men can express their femdom desires and not fight against them.  This would make it far easier for women to gain the upper hand in their relationships with men.

Women are competing with a handful of alpha men, for the totally obedience of the majority of men.  The more women can get men to their question patriarchal brainwashing, the more likely men will follow their natural instincts to obey women.

Though if the patriarchal ruling elite realize they are losing this propaganda war, will they resort to violence?  Fortunately women no longer need to be as helpless against male violence as they once were.  The Amazons probably lost out to patriarchal armies as they were at a physical disadvantage fighting men with swords and axes.  This is not such a problem today, as you don’t need to be extremely strong to pull the trigger of a gun.

As seen with Kurdish female soldiers, women today can match men on the battlefield with modern weapons.  Also, male soldiers can also fight wars and yet still be subservient to women at the same time.  

It is only patriarchal brainwashing that prevents men from following their natural feelings to want to serve and worship women.  The trouble is that this patriarchal propaganda comes to us all from schools, books, newspapers, films and TV shows.  As the result, most people never get to hear the other side of the story and may not even know what matriarchy is.


Fortunately today we have the internet where men can not only express their femdom desires but people can talk about matriarchy and why women should rule the world.  Through this we can reach more and more people and make matriarchy a world-wide movement. 

Saturday, 16 June 2012

Femdom And The Teachings of Jesus



Many Christians have a problem with the very ‘meek and mild’ Jesus as portrayed in the New Testament.  This is because this image is totally at odds with the very macho men like David, Samson and Moses you find in the Old Testament.  Also, a loving and humble Jesus is not how men are expected to behave in our society, where men are expected to be assertive, aggressive and even violent, if they want to be like the ‘real men’ that are portrayed as heroes in the movies.

This is also why in our patriarchal world, masochistic or femdom men are seen as perverts, wimps and losers, because they are not macho.  To the degree that some people will see it as a mental illness that needs a cure.  Yet the teachings of Jesus Christ in the New Testament seem to be very masochistic.  As we can see in the following two examples, taken from the King James version of the Bible.

In Matthew chapter 5 verse 38

Ye have heard that it hath been said.  And eye for an eye a tooth for a tooth:
But I say unto you.  That ye resist not evil: but whosoever she smite thee on the right cheek, turn to him the other also.
And if any man will sue thee at the law, and take away thy coat, let him have thy cloak also.
And whosoever shall compel thee to go a mile, go with him twain.
Give to him that asketh thee, and from him that would borrow of thee and not turn not thou away.
Ye have heard that it hath been said.  Thou shalt love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy.
But I say unto you.  Love your enemies, bless them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you:
That ye many be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth the rain on the just and on the unjust.

We can see a similar concept in another Gospel.

Luke chapter 6 verse 27

But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you.
Bless them that curse you and pray for them which despitefully use you.
And unto him that smiteth thee on the one cheek offer also the other; and him that taketh away thy cloak forbid not to take away thy coat also.
Give to every man that asketh of thee; and of him that taketh away thy goods ask them not again
And as ye would that man should do to you, do also to them likewise
For if ye love them which love you, what thanks have ye for sinners also, love those that love them.
And if ye do good to them which do good to you, what thank have ye? For sinners also do even the same.
And if ye lend to them of whom you hope to receive, what thank ye? For sinners also lend to sinners, to receive much gain.
But love ye your enemies, and do good, and lend hoping for nothing again; and your reward shall be great, and ye shall be the children of the highest:  For he is kind unto the unthankful and to the evil.
Be ye therefore merciful, as your Father is merciful.
Judge not and ye shall not be judged:  condemn not and ye shall not be condemned:  forgive, and ye shall be forgiven.

Now, some Christians find these teachings an embarrassment and try to ignore them.  This is because a person who is willing to, “turn the other cheek”, or “love your enemies, do good to them which hate you”, could be defined as a wimp or masochist.  Christians who are willing to accept these teaching don’t see it that way and claim what Jesus is teaching, is deep sacrificial love.  Certainly, this is the type of unconditional love that women give to their children.  The trouble is that Jesus not only taught that we should love others to the degree, it sounds masochistic, he also practiced it.

Jesus not only allowed himself to knowingly be betrayed by his disciple Judas, he didn’t try to defend himself from accusations made by the Pharisees.  He also didn’t cooperate with Pilate’s attempts to get him released.  In the end, he voluntary allowed himself to be mocked, beaten, whipped, tortured and crucified.

Mel Gibson was strongly criticised because of his film “The Passion Of The Christ” he showed the extreme torture of Jesus in all its revolving horror.  In contrast of most films and books on Jesus that has tried to gloss over this.

So was Jesus a masochist?  If we are to claim that masochists are perverts, then the sacrificial teachings and behaviour of Jesus makes no sense at all.  But if we accept that masochism demonstrates an extreme commitment to love others, more than yourself, then we can understand what Jesus was attempting to teach and demonstrate by his sacrifice.

It used to be claimed by psychologist that all women are masochists and perhaps this is true if you want to give birth and bring up children.  This is because devoted mothers will put the welfare of her children before her own and sacrifice herself for the needs of her children.  Unfortunately many men take advantage of this by acting like children which triggers women’s maternal instincts.  As the result, these child-men can get away with abusing women.

In the two thousand years of history from the time Jesus’s death to now, has been a history of continuous conflict, wars, torture, oppression, and inequality.  So we can say that Christianity has been a failure in teaching men to be as loving and peaceful as what Jesus was.  Because, if all men acted and behaved in the same way as Jesus did, then there would be hardly any wars, conflict or crime. Yet, in our modern world there is one group of men who are more like Jesus than most men, and these are men who have strong femdom desires.



What is interesting is that these men are not motivated to be as humble or masochistic, by any religion or spiritual ideal.  They are motivated by a powerful sexual fantasy. Certainly, if all men had strong femdom desires to serve and worship women, then we would no longer live in a world of conflict and wars.  Men would only want to veneration women and not be so interested in fighting and violence.

Another aspect of this would be, that if men worshiped women, it would mean women would rule the world.  Women are far less little interests in wars and violence than what men are.  Also women tend to be more loving towards children; a matriarchal government would never allow any child to grow up in poverty and ignorance.  So they would rule a far more peaceful world and do their best to eliminate poverty.

So we can see a similarity between the desires of femdom men and Christians who strictly follow Jesus’s teachings.  (This doesn’t include the Christians who follow the teachings in the Old Testament or the teachings of St Paul).  So by either following the teaching of Jesus or having Femdom desires, will tend to make men more humble and caring people. Now, many people would assume that only a small minority of men have femdom desires.  But is this true?

Patriarchy tells men that it is natural for men to be violent and dominate women.  Yet patriarchy puts pressure onto men to be like this.  For instance, Lt. Col. Dave Grossman of the US army, written books explaining how military forces all over the world have to brutalise or train men how to kill other men.  This is because, as the military has discovered, that if soldiers are not trained to kill, the majority of them, will not kill the enemy on the battle-field.   So if violence was natural for men, then the military wouldn't need to train and indoctrinate their soldiers into becoming killers.

The same is true of the idea that it is natural for men to dominate women.  In patriarchal societies all over the world men are put under pressure to be the dominant partner in their relationships with women.  An extreme example of this is the ‘honour’ system in Islamic countries.  Where men are under extreme social pressure to beat-up or kill their wives if they disobey them.  The point is that if male dominance was as natural as the Islamic religion claims, men wouldn't have to be indoctrinated to dominate their wives, and wives wouldn't need to be threatened with extreme violence to obey men.

It is femdom desires within men that threaten all patriarchal societies and this is why patriarchal societies condemn men, who allow their wives to be the dominant partner.  For this reason, even today, in couples where the woman is the dominant, it is still kept a secret.

It is true that many women complain about how femdom men try to, “top from the bottom” and make demands on dominant women.  But, we also must remember that all femdom men are brought up in patriarchal societies and have been contaminated by patriarchal thinking.  It is hard for both women and men to not be influenced by the surrounding patriarchal society, even if they do have strong femdom desires.

As the result, many femdom men feel ashamed of their femdom desires because of their patriarchal upbringing and still try to resist them, which creates an inner conflict. This can make it very confusing for any women he is interacting with, because sometimes he is being very subservient to her and other times he is acting like a typical patriarchal male.

This might have been the problem Jesus had in promoting his doctrine.  His teachings would have made a lot more sense if he sacrificed himself to a Goddess rather than a male god, as this would have awakened femdom desires within men.  But this probably would have not been acceptable at the time.  His teachings were controversial enough, without him also worshiping a female deity.



Another point was that Jesus tried to put across the concept of a loving male god, which never caught on.  Most Christians, over the last two thousand years, have worshiped the judgmental and punitive god of the Old Testament rather than the loving Father God of the New Testament.  This is because men are not as loving as women, so people had problems in imagining a male god that is truly loving.  Whereas a loving Mother Goddess would have made far more sense, as it is so much easier to envisage a loving feminine deity.

Therefore, it might mean that half of Jesus’s original teachings may have not survived.  He either censored himself, to make his teaching more acceptable, to people of the time.  Or he may have put out the ideas of men worshiping women and a female deity but this was later censored by his followers.  The latter might be a strong possibility, because in the few surviving Gnostic Gospels, it is claimed that Jesus worshiped the Goddess Sophia.

The history of Christianity shows us that most men are not motivated to love and care for others, by his teachings.  As most Christians prefer the teachings in the Old Testament.  But this might be different if we had Christian femdom teachings.  Most men are not naturally interested in worshiping male gods, as patriarchal religions have to brainwash men into doing this.  But if we free men from patriarchal conditioning, then most men would probably prefer to worship a female deity.

History has shown us that all religions that worship male gods tend to be violent.  Even Buddhism which follows the teachings of Gautama Buddha, who like Jesus taught peace and compassion, can be very violent.  As we have seen recently in the Sri Lankan and Myanmar civil wars, which are Buddhist countries.  If we want to have a truly peaceful and loving world, which Jesus advocated, then this would only be possible if all men were encouraged to worship women.

So if Christianity teachings are to make men more loving and caring, in the way Jesus advocated.  Then it will be far more successful if the teachings of Jesus are linked to men’s Femdom desires, so men can learn how to deeply love others, through their sexual desires to serve and venerate the female sex.