Many Christians have a problem with the very ‘meek and mild’ Jesus as portrayed in the New Testament. This is because this image is totally at odds with the very macho men like David, Samson and Moses you find in the Old Testament. Also, a loving and humble Jesus is not how men are expected to behave in our society, where men are expected to be assertive, aggressive and even violent, if they want to be like the ‘real men’ that are portrayed as heroes in the movies.
This is also why in our patriarchal world, masochistic or femdom men are seen as perverts, wimps and losers, because they are not macho. To the degree that some people will see it as a mental illness that needs a cure. Yet the teachings of Jesus Christ in the New Testament seem to be very masochistic. As we can see in the following two examples, taken from the King James version of the Bible.
In Matthew chapter 5 verse 38
Ye have heard that it hath been said. And eye for an eye a tooth for a tooth:
But I say unto you. That ye resist not evil: but whosoever she smite thee on the right cheek, turn to him the other also.
And if any man will sue thee at the law, and take away thy coat, let him have thy cloak also.
And whosoever shall compel thee to go a mile, go with him twain.
Give to him that asketh thee, and from him that would borrow of thee and not turn not thou away.
Ye have heard that it hath been said. Thou shalt love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy.
But I say unto you. Love your enemies, bless them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you:
That ye many be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth the rain on the just and on the unjust.
We can see a similar concept in another Gospel.
Luke chapter 6 verse 27
But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you.
Bless them that curse you and pray for them which despitefully use you.
And unto him that smiteth thee on the one cheek offer also the other; and him that taketh away thy cloak forbid not to take away thy coat also.
Give to every man that asketh of thee; and of him that taketh away thy goods ask them not again
And as ye would that man should do to you, do also to them likewise
For if ye love them which love you, what thanks have ye for sinners also, love those that love them.
And if ye do good to them which do good to you, what thank have ye? For sinners also do even the same.
And if ye lend to them of whom you hope to receive, what thank ye? For sinners also lend to sinners, to receive much gain.
But love ye your enemies, and do good, and lend hoping for nothing again; and your reward shall be great, and ye shall be the children of the highest: For he is kind unto the unthankful and to the evil.
Be ye therefore merciful, as your Father is merciful.
Judge not and ye shall not be judged: condemn not and ye shall not be condemned: forgive, and ye shall be forgiven.
Now, some Christians find these teachings an embarrassment and try to ignore them. This is because a person who is willing to, “turn the other cheek”, or “love your enemies, do good to them which hate you”, could be defined as a wimp or masochist. Christians who are willing to accept these teaching don’t see it that way and claim what Jesus is teaching, is deep sacrificial love. Certainly, this is the type of unconditional love that women give to their children. The trouble is that Jesus not only taught that we should love others to the degree, it sounds masochistic, he also practiced it.
Jesus not only allowed himself to knowingly be betrayed by his disciple Judas, he didn’t try to defend himself from accusations made by the Pharisees. He also didn’t cooperate with Pilate’s attempts to get him released. In the end, he voluntary allowed himself to be mocked, beaten, whipped, tortured and crucified.
Mel Gibson was strongly criticised because of his film “The Passion Of The Christ” he showed the extreme torture of Jesus in all its revolving horror. In contrast of most films and books on Jesus that has tried to gloss over this.
So was Jesus a masochist? If we are to claim that masochists are perverts, then the sacrificial teachings and behaviour of Jesus makes no sense at all. But if we accept that masochism demonstrates an extreme commitment to love others, more than yourself, then we can understand what Jesus was attempting to teach and demonstrate by his sacrifice.
It used to be claimed by psychologist that all women are masochists and perhaps this is true if you want to give birth and bring up children. This is because devoted mothers will put the welfare of her children before her own and sacrifice herself for the needs of her children. Unfortunately many men take advantage of this by acting like children which triggers women’s maternal instincts. As the result, these child-men can get away with abusing women.
In the two thousand years of history from the time Jesus’s death to now, has been a history of continuous conflict, wars, torture, oppression, and inequality. So we can say that Christianity has been a failure in teaching men to be as loving and peaceful as what Jesus was. Because, if all men acted and behaved in the same way as Jesus did, then there would be hardly any wars, conflict or crime. Yet, in our modern world there is one group of men who are more like Jesus than most men, and these are men who have strong femdom desires.
What is interesting is that these men are not motivated to be as humble or masochistic, by any religion or spiritual ideal. They are motivated by a powerful sexual fantasy. Certainly, if all men had strong femdom desires to serve and worship women, then we would no longer live in a world of conflict and wars. Men would only want to veneration women and not be so interested in fighting and violence.
Another aspect of this would be, that if men worshiped women, it would mean women would rule the world. Women are far less little interests in wars and violence than what men are. Also women tend to be more loving towards children; a matriarchal government would never allow any child to grow up in poverty and ignorance. So they would rule a far more peaceful world and do their best to eliminate poverty.
So we can see a similarity between the desires of femdom men and Christians who strictly follow Jesus’s teachings. (This doesn’t include the Christians who follow the teachings in the Old Testament or the teachings of St Paul). So by either following the teaching of Jesus or having Femdom desires, will tend to make men more humble and caring people. Now, many people would assume that only a small minority of men have femdom desires. But is this true?
Patriarchy tells men that it is natural for men to be violent and dominate women. Yet patriarchy puts pressure onto men to be like this. For instance, Lt. Col. Dave Grossman of the US army, written books explaining how military forces all over the world have to brutalise or train men how to kill other men. This is because, as the military has discovered, that if soldiers are not trained to kill, the majority of them, will not kill the enemy on the battle-field. So if violence was natural for men, then the military wouldn't need to train and indoctrinate their soldiers into becoming killers.
The same is true of the idea that it is natural for men to dominate women. In patriarchal societies all over the world men are put under pressure to be the dominant partner in their relationships with women. An extreme example of this is the ‘honour’ system in Islamic countries. Where men are under extreme social pressure to beat-up or kill their wives if they disobey them. The point is that if male dominance was as natural as the Islamic religion claims, men wouldn't have to be indoctrinated to dominate their wives, and wives wouldn't need to be threatened with extreme violence to obey men.
It is femdom desires within men that threaten all patriarchal societies and this is why patriarchal societies condemn men, who allow their wives to be the dominant partner. For this reason, even today, in couples where the woman is the dominant, it is still kept a secret.
It is true that many women complain about how femdom men try to, “top from the bottom” and make demands on dominant women. But, we also must remember that all femdom men are brought up in patriarchal societies and have been contaminated by patriarchal thinking. It is hard for both women and men to not be influenced by the surrounding patriarchal society, even if they do have strong femdom desires.
As the result, many femdom men feel ashamed of their femdom desires because of their patriarchal upbringing and still try to resist them, which creates an inner conflict. This can make it very confusing for any women he is interacting with, because sometimes he is being very subservient to her and other times he is acting like a typical patriarchal male.
This might have been the problem Jesus had in promoting his doctrine. His teachings would have made a lot more sense if he sacrificed himself to a Goddess rather than a male god, as this would have awakened femdom desires within men. But this probably would have not been acceptable at the time. His teachings were controversial enough, without him also worshiping a female deity.
Another point was that Jesus tried to put across the concept of a loving male god, which never caught on. Most Christians, over the last two thousand years, have worshiped the judgmental and punitive god of the Old Testament rather than the loving Father God of the New Testament. This is because men are not as loving as women, so people had problems in imagining a male god that is truly loving. Whereas a loving Mother Goddess would have made far more sense, as it is so much easier to envisage a loving feminine deity.
Therefore, it might mean that half of Jesus’s original teachings may have not survived. He either censored himself, to make his teaching more acceptable, to people of the time. Or he may have put out the ideas of men worshiping women and a female deity but this was later censored by his followers. The latter might be a strong possibility, because in the few surviving Gnostic Gospels, it is claimed that Jesus worshiped the Goddess Sophia.
The history of Christianity shows us that most men are not motivated to love and care for others, by his teachings. As most Christians prefer the teachings in the Old Testament. But this might be different if we had Christian femdom teachings. Most men are not naturally interested in worshiping male gods, as patriarchal religions have to brainwash men into doing this. But if we free men from patriarchal conditioning, then most men would probably prefer to worship a female deity.
History has shown us that all religions that worship male gods tend to be violent. Even Buddhism which follows the teachings of Gautama Buddha, who like Jesus taught peace and compassion, can be very violent. As we have seen recently in the Sri Lankan and Myanmar civil wars, which are Buddhist countries. If we want to have a truly peaceful and loving world, which Jesus advocated, then this would only be possible if all men were encouraged to worship women.
So if Christianity teachings are to make men more loving and caring, in the way Jesus advocated. Then it will be far more successful if the teachings of Jesus are linked to men’s Femdom desires, so men can learn how to deeply love others, through their sexual desires to serve and venerate the female sex.